Recovery from Abusive Groups Page vi
Little Decisions to Big Decisions......................................................................................... 50
Exercise- Decision-Making............................................................................................... 50
Letting Go of Myths.................................................................................................50
A Smidgen of Truth .........................................................................................................51
Goodbye Myths, Hello Responsibility ..................................................................................51
Shortcuts and Distortions .................................................................................................51
Untangling and Evaluating................................................................................................ 51
Exercise- A Culture of Myths............................................................................................ 52
Summary ..............................................................................................................52
Chapter 4: The Role of the Family..................................................................... 53
Pointers ................................................................................................................53
Patient and Hopeful.................................................................................................54
Exercise- For the Future .................................................................................................54
Time Lost Forever...................................................................................................54
Exercise– What I Wanted for You..................................................................................... 55
Accept the Changes......................................................................................................... 55
Integration Takes Time ....................................................................................................55
Exercise- Expectations.................................................................................................... 56
Missed Events................................................................................................................. 56
Basic Skills ............................................................................................................56
Respecting Their Accomplishments............................................................................57
Nieces, Nephews, and Grandchildren.................................................................................. 58
Covered in Bruises ..........................................................................................................58
Will My Loved One Go Back to the Cult?.....................................................................58
Encourage Open Communication .......................................................................................59
Questions as Mental Exercise ............................................................................................59
Exercise- Helping Behaviors ............................................................................................59
Eggshells and Frustration.........................................................................................59
My Loved One Was Fooled .......................................................................................60
A Critical Difference......................................................................................................... 60
Know the Force............................................................................................................... 60
Exercise- Helping Assessment .........................................................................................61
Speaking Out about Their Experience ........................................................................61
Not Ready...................................................................................................................... 61
What to Do About Religion?......................................................................................61
Summary ..............................................................................................................62
Epilogue........................................................................................................ 63
Little Decisions to Big Decisions......................................................................................... 50
Exercise- Decision-Making............................................................................................... 50
Letting Go of Myths.................................................................................................50
A Smidgen of Truth .........................................................................................................51
Goodbye Myths, Hello Responsibility ..................................................................................51
Shortcuts and Distortions .................................................................................................51
Untangling and Evaluating................................................................................................ 51
Exercise- A Culture of Myths............................................................................................ 52
Summary ..............................................................................................................52
Chapter 4: The Role of the Family..................................................................... 53
Pointers ................................................................................................................53
Patient and Hopeful.................................................................................................54
Exercise- For the Future .................................................................................................54
Time Lost Forever...................................................................................................54
Exercise– What I Wanted for You..................................................................................... 55
Accept the Changes......................................................................................................... 55
Integration Takes Time ....................................................................................................55
Exercise- Expectations.................................................................................................... 56
Missed Events................................................................................................................. 56
Basic Skills ............................................................................................................56
Respecting Their Accomplishments............................................................................57
Nieces, Nephews, and Grandchildren.................................................................................. 58
Covered in Bruises ..........................................................................................................58
Will My Loved One Go Back to the Cult?.....................................................................58
Encourage Open Communication .......................................................................................59
Questions as Mental Exercise ............................................................................................59
Exercise- Helping Behaviors ............................................................................................59
Eggshells and Frustration.........................................................................................59
My Loved One Was Fooled .......................................................................................60
A Critical Difference......................................................................................................... 60
Know the Force............................................................................................................... 60
Exercise- Helping Assessment .........................................................................................61
Speaking Out about Their Experience ........................................................................61
Not Ready...................................................................................................................... 61
What to Do About Religion?......................................................................................61
Summary ..............................................................................................................62
Epilogue........................................................................................................ 63
