Recovery from Abusive Groups Page iv
Insufficient Understanding................................................................................................ 17
Learn to Tell Your Story...........................................................................................17
Talk "With" Not "At"......................................................................................................... 18
Letting the Steam Out .....................................................................................................18
Time for Pondering .................................................................................................19
Society at a Crossroads ...........................................................................................19
Pre-Cult Developmental Issues.......................................................................................... 19
Financial Stability ...................................................................................................20
Work Environments .........................................................................................................20
Routine and Boring.......................................................................................................... 20
Interviews and Resumes ..................................................................................................21
Exercise- Job Interview Skills ..........................................................................................21
Talking about the Cult at Work.......................................................................................... 21
Working with a Cultist...................................................................................................... 22
Summary ..............................................................................................................22
Chapter 2: Phase Two-Understanding and Feeling............................................... 23
Reconnecting with Family and Friends .......................................................................23
Looking Foolish............................................................................................................... 23
visiting to Fill the Void...................................................................................................... 24
Missed Events................................................................................................................. 24
The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly....................................................................................... 24
Exercise- Family Assessment........................................................................................... 25
Making New Friends................................................................................................25
Build Trust Slowly ...........................................................................................................25
Behavior and Words ........................................................................................................26
Where Are They?............................................................................................................. 26
Try Something New......................................................................................................... 26
Exercise- Reconnecting................................................................................................... 27
Small Talk...................................................................................................................... 27
Yes, I'd Like to Get to Know You ...............................................................................27
Answering Questions...............................................................................................28
Assessing the Question ....................................................................................................28
Spouse Involved.....................................................................................................29
Avoid a Battleground! ......................................................................................................29
Kids Gotta Love ..............................................................................................................29
You're OK They're OK .....................................................................................................30
Flashbacks.............................................................................................................30
Floating.................................................................................................................31
Monitoring Stress ............................................................................................................31
Exercise- Learning to Recognize Signals............................................................................ 32
Emotions as Feedback Systems......................................................................................... 32
Look but Don't Touch....................................................................................................... 32
Uncontrolled Floating....................................................................................................... 32
Extensive Meditation and Attention Deficiencies................................................................... 33
Exercise- Active Listening ...............................................................................................33
Home from the War ................................................................................................33
An Analogy..................................................................................................................... 33
Insufficient Understanding................................................................................................ 17
Learn to Tell Your Story...........................................................................................17
Talk "With" Not "At"......................................................................................................... 18
Letting the Steam Out .....................................................................................................18
Time for Pondering .................................................................................................19
Society at a Crossroads ...........................................................................................19
Pre-Cult Developmental Issues.......................................................................................... 19
Financial Stability ...................................................................................................20
Work Environments .........................................................................................................20
Routine and Boring.......................................................................................................... 20
Interviews and Resumes ..................................................................................................21
Exercise- Job Interview Skills ..........................................................................................21
Talking about the Cult at Work.......................................................................................... 21
Working with a Cultist...................................................................................................... 22
Summary ..............................................................................................................22
Chapter 2: Phase Two-Understanding and Feeling............................................... 23
Reconnecting with Family and Friends .......................................................................23
Looking Foolish............................................................................................................... 23
visiting to Fill the Void...................................................................................................... 24
Missed Events................................................................................................................. 24
The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly....................................................................................... 24
Exercise- Family Assessment........................................................................................... 25
Making New Friends................................................................................................25
Build Trust Slowly ...........................................................................................................25
Behavior and Words ........................................................................................................26
Where Are They?............................................................................................................. 26
Try Something New......................................................................................................... 26
Exercise- Reconnecting................................................................................................... 27
Small Talk...................................................................................................................... 27
Yes, I'd Like to Get to Know You ...............................................................................27
Answering Questions...............................................................................................28
Assessing the Question ....................................................................................................28
Spouse Involved.....................................................................................................29
Avoid a Battleground! ......................................................................................................29
Kids Gotta Love ..............................................................................................................29
You're OK They're OK .....................................................................................................30
Flashbacks.............................................................................................................30
Floating.................................................................................................................31
Monitoring Stress ............................................................................................................31
Exercise- Learning to Recognize Signals............................................................................ 32
Emotions as Feedback Systems......................................................................................... 32
Look but Don't Touch....................................................................................................... 32
Uncontrolled Floating....................................................................................................... 32
Extensive Meditation and Attention Deficiencies................................................................... 33
Exercise- Active Listening ...............................................................................................33
Home from the War ................................................................................................33
An Analogy..................................................................................................................... 33
