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can also be distressing. Cults, while rigid, offer
the comfort of an absolute worldview. For those
who have not yet developed the ability to
tolerate ambiguity, breaking out of black-and-
white thinking can be as much an existential
issue as a developmental issue. Counselors must
be prepared to help clients learn to sit with their
discomfort and resist the urge to constrict critical
thinking even as they develop meaningful
worldviews (Beck, 2006 Perach &Wisman,
2016).
Relational Issues
A good portion of a cult’s damage lies in the
arena of connection and trust (Herman, 1997
Rosen, 2014). Within a cultic environment, the
boundaries between the self and the group are
violated in multiple ways, both disrupting the
connection a person has to the self and
muddying the distinction between the self and
others (Herman, 1997 Lifton, 1963). Survivors
may emerge from a group with little ability to
maintain boundaries in a healthy way. Survivors
of relational trauma in which boundary
violations were the norm may not recognize
typical red flags in other relationships as a
result, some individuals run the risk of
repeatedly entering into toxic relationships
(Herman, 1997). For others, trust seems
daunting, if not impossible (Rosen, 2014).
Having been violated by those closest to them,
survivors may see all people as a threat. In
addition, many survivors have been taught to
fear the outside world, especially professionals
such as law enforcement, doctors, and
counselors (Bardin, 2005 Kendall, 2016 Lalich
&McLaren, 2018 Singer, 2003).
Counseling will often need to involve an
exploration of boundaries as survivors struggle
to figure out a balance between having
connection and protecting the integrity of the
self (Kendall, 2016 Matthews &Salazar, 2014
Rosen, 2014). Counselors will first need to build
trust with survivors. Counselors can model
boundaries by setting and adhering to their own
boundaries while simultaneously respecting
those of their clients. Counselors must also be
conscious of the power structure created or
implied within the therapy room, acknowledging
its existence and taking steps to ensure that the
clients feel safe and capable of asserting their
needs and boundaries with their counselors
(Matthews &Salazar, 2014). The counseling
experience offers an opportunity for healing
connection whereby clients experience intimacy
with boundaries (Herman, 1997). In therapy,
survivors can also explore and practice social
skills that they can apply in other relationships
with family or friends (Kendall, 2016 Matthews
&Salazar, 2014).
As therapy progresses, counselors can assist
survivors in building an outer support network
(Rosen, 2014). Clients may need to learn basic
social expectations and norms of appropriate
behavior, especially if they have been physically
isolated from mainstream society (Kendall,
2016 Singer, 2003). Clients may also struggle
with finding an appropriate balance in
boundaries with others (Herman, 1997). For
many who survived controlling and abusive
relationships, boundaries often need to be rigid
before they can become flexible as survivors
learn to trust their own ability to hold a
boundary and respond to violations (Czerny,
Lassiter, &Lim, 2018). Matthews and Salazar
(2014) point out that cultic groups often limit all
major social relationships to those within the
group therefore, survivors may benefit from
developing a diverse body of connections with
people from multiple social groups and settings.
Group-therapy situations have the potential to be
healing for survivors by providing connections
with others who have gone through similar
circumstances (Durocher, 1999 Matthews &
Salazar, 2014) however, just as clients may
initially distrust an individual therapist, they
may also find it hard to trust a group-therapy
situation. Because group therapy can devolve
into toxic practices, groups should be facilitated
by someone who is knowledgeable about
totalistic influence and who can monitor and
intervene should the group begin demonstrating
concerning signs (Lalich &McLaren, 2018).
The presence of a cofacilitator can also be an
important check on the power of the group
leader.
In addition to building new connections, many
survivors will need to take some time to grieve
the connections they have lost in leaving a cultic
can also be distressing. Cults, while rigid, offer
the comfort of an absolute worldview. For those
who have not yet developed the ability to
tolerate ambiguity, breaking out of black-and-
white thinking can be as much an existential
issue as a developmental issue. Counselors must
be prepared to help clients learn to sit with their
discomfort and resist the urge to constrict critical
thinking even as they develop meaningful
worldviews (Beck, 2006 Perach &Wisman,
2016).
Relational Issues
A good portion of a cult’s damage lies in the
arena of connection and trust (Herman, 1997
Rosen, 2014). Within a cultic environment, the
boundaries between the self and the group are
violated in multiple ways, both disrupting the
connection a person has to the self and
muddying the distinction between the self and
others (Herman, 1997 Lifton, 1963). Survivors
may emerge from a group with little ability to
maintain boundaries in a healthy way. Survivors
of relational trauma in which boundary
violations were the norm may not recognize
typical red flags in other relationships as a
result, some individuals run the risk of
repeatedly entering into toxic relationships
(Herman, 1997). For others, trust seems
daunting, if not impossible (Rosen, 2014).
Having been violated by those closest to them,
survivors may see all people as a threat. In
addition, many survivors have been taught to
fear the outside world, especially professionals
such as law enforcement, doctors, and
counselors (Bardin, 2005 Kendall, 2016 Lalich
&McLaren, 2018 Singer, 2003).
Counseling will often need to involve an
exploration of boundaries as survivors struggle
to figure out a balance between having
connection and protecting the integrity of the
self (Kendall, 2016 Matthews &Salazar, 2014
Rosen, 2014). Counselors will first need to build
trust with survivors. Counselors can model
boundaries by setting and adhering to their own
boundaries while simultaneously respecting
those of their clients. Counselors must also be
conscious of the power structure created or
implied within the therapy room, acknowledging
its existence and taking steps to ensure that the
clients feel safe and capable of asserting their
needs and boundaries with their counselors
(Matthews &Salazar, 2014). The counseling
experience offers an opportunity for healing
connection whereby clients experience intimacy
with boundaries (Herman, 1997). In therapy,
survivors can also explore and practice social
skills that they can apply in other relationships
with family or friends (Kendall, 2016 Matthews
&Salazar, 2014).
As therapy progresses, counselors can assist
survivors in building an outer support network
(Rosen, 2014). Clients may need to learn basic
social expectations and norms of appropriate
behavior, especially if they have been physically
isolated from mainstream society (Kendall,
2016 Singer, 2003). Clients may also struggle
with finding an appropriate balance in
boundaries with others (Herman, 1997). For
many who survived controlling and abusive
relationships, boundaries often need to be rigid
before they can become flexible as survivors
learn to trust their own ability to hold a
boundary and respond to violations (Czerny,
Lassiter, &Lim, 2018). Matthews and Salazar
(2014) point out that cultic groups often limit all
major social relationships to those within the
group therefore, survivors may benefit from
developing a diverse body of connections with
people from multiple social groups and settings.
Group-therapy situations have the potential to be
healing for survivors by providing connections
with others who have gone through similar
circumstances (Durocher, 1999 Matthews &
Salazar, 2014) however, just as clients may
initially distrust an individual therapist, they
may also find it hard to trust a group-therapy
situation. Because group therapy can devolve
into toxic practices, groups should be facilitated
by someone who is knowledgeable about
totalistic influence and who can monitor and
intervene should the group begin demonstrating
concerning signs (Lalich &McLaren, 2018).
The presence of a cofacilitator can also be an
important check on the power of the group
leader.
In addition to building new connections, many
survivors will need to take some time to grieve
the connections they have lost in leaving a cultic
